So following up on my first post, I said I would go into more detail about the claim that Dominican men do not know how to treat women.
Before I begin, I do want to say that it would be foolish of me to completely deny that Dominican men don’t know how to treat women. Although it is a generalization, there must be some inkling of truth; otherwise, why would so many Latinas say it. Personally, which ever Dominicans did their women dirty have now given men like me a bad rap. But apparently enough Dominican men have done dirt that it has almost become accepted, within the Dominican community, the Latino community and society at large practically, that Dominican men are not suited for long term relationships.
So let’s go over some examples:
1. Dominican men cheat on their girlfriends/wives. First of all, how did the common claim that “all men cheat” become so narrow that it only relates to Dominican men? I will expand on this further in a future blog, but I just want to say one thing – this is a weak example of how or why Dominican men don’t know how to treat women for the simple fact that cheating is a universal act the crosses race, ethnicity and gender. Black men don’t cheat? Asian men don’t cheat? Mexican, Cuban, Indian, German,… get it? Most importantly, white men don’t cheat? Come on! Don’t you see that it’s pointless to only call out Dominicans?
Having said this, I think the reason why women might call out Dominicans is because they have taken cheating to another level by oftentimes having entirely separate families simultaneously. Yes, this is outrageous and yet it is despicable. But these are extreme examples that I would dare say cannot be that common. If you can show me some statistics then we’ll talk. Until then, I find it hard to believe that having two or more separate families at the same time is some kind of epidemic among Dominican men.
2. Dominican men just want housewives. In other words, Dominican men, once they are in a relationship, try to control their wives’ movement such that the women end up just staying at home doing domestic chores. This sound like Machismo to me. You know, that male-dominating way of thinking that has been around for centuries across cultures the world over. So is this all of a sudden a Dominican thing? I highly doubt that a modern Dominican man is like this. If your man doesn’t let you go out, not even with him, then your man is selfish and insecure, and, well, you picked the wrong man to be with.
I guess these are the main two issues/complaints. What else?
Look forward to hearing women’s thoughts.
In the meantime, my next post will delve deeper into the reasons why Dominican men supposedly treat their women badly.
Oh, and Happy Valentine’s Day :)